Wednesday, November 01, 2006

Controversial Issues About The New Sex And Relationship Book, Sex Secrets Of An American Geisha - Py Kim-Conant

Q: Are you speaking against feminists? You emphasize femininity in your book, "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha" and tell the reader that strict feminists will be upset with you.

Py Kim Conant: As much as some feminists may have problems with me, I have no problems with feminists. I am both a feminist and a feminine woman; I see no reason for having to choose one or the other. All women need the feminist backbone that can allow them to be feminine without being weak or passive, to be nice without being taken advantage of.

An American Geisha is not a strict feminist, except in the world of work and career. The American Geisha develops within herself a comfortable balance between feminist and feminine-ist qualities. In the world of love and romance, I suggest that you shift your perspective to that of a feminine-ist, a woman who values, loves, and wants to operate out of her femininity. In a sense, in your work world you must insist upon being treated like “one of the boys,” treated equally with the men. However, in your personal world, you do not want to be one of the boys. You want to be very different from the boys, very feminine in contrast to their masculinity. You are a feminist while making a living, and a feminine-ist while making (or seeking) love. As a feminist, compete fairly with men at work; then, come home and attract men to you as a feminine-ist. The feminist asserts herself as a person, while the feminine-ist asserts herself as a woman. We women need to do both.

Q: Are you asking women to be the Stepford Wives clones, totally passive women who do whatever their men want?

Py Kim Conant: I do not suggest at all that women become some idealized stereotype of “feminine.” In The Stepford Wives, which was a novel and a movie in the 1970s and remade as a movie in 2004, all of the wives in the town of Stepford are incredibly feminine (they do aerobics in high heels, for instance), but also incredibly passive and dominated by their husbands. As two new arrivals to town (Nicole Kidman and Bette Midler in the 2004 version) eventually learn, all the other “wives” are, in fact, robotic clones created at the husbands’ request to replace their assertive wives. In contrast, I want your femininity to be an individual, unique expression of who you really are, a femininity that represents you being more of yourself, not less, not a homogenized, soulless, robotic slave that devotes yourself totally to your Stepford husband. No Good Woman American Geisha would want to be that robotic woman; nor would any truly Good Man want to be with a woman who is not her own real, happy, individual self.

Q: This book isn’t very politically correct, is it?

Py Kim Conant: No, it is not. I am often writing in my book in a politically incorrect way. I have to be
honest, frank, even outrageous with the reader in this book. I can’t try to cover my little ass, saying politically correct things so that no one gets upset. I am not P.C. (Politically Correct), but I am P.C. (Practically Correct) in the book, advising women to do what works, what is practical, what makes you more beautiful, sexy, and feminine, in order to attract and keep your own masculine Good Man.

Py Kim Conant, the author of Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man, Hunter House Publishers. Looking for relationship, dating and sex tips? Visit Py’s website at

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