Saturday, January 28, 2006

Foreplay - The Key To Better Orgasms - By Marie Clare

Guys are you confused, clumsy, and don't know what to do when it comes to Foreplay? Does your heart drop and you hesitate at the mere mention of the word Foreplay? If so, then it's time for a lesson in Foreplay!

As many of you have probably found out, most women consider "Foreplay" a very important part of sex. And there is very good reason for this. Our bodies don't react sexually as fast as yours does. We need some warm up time to get into the mood. While each woman is different as far as how much foreplay she requires before she is sexually aroused, studies have found that most women all like the same type of foreplay. So based on that theory, and some of my own experiences as well ;-) I've put together some tips on "Foreplay The Key To Better Orgasms".


This is a great way to start off your sexual romp. Most women love to be hugged. To be held tight by their lover. This gives us a protective feeling and tells us you want to be close to us. It's easy to do, just start by holding your lover close and pressing her body against yours. While hugging her lightly kiss her neck and shoulders.


While laying down run your hands lightly and softly up and down, exploring the peek and valleys of her body. Some women love to have this done to their neck, shoulders and back. Others, like to have their buttocks gently massaged. And yet others love their breasts softly caressed. This will all depend on where your lover's erogenous zones are. If you're both undressed gently kiss and lick these areas as well. She'll be like putty in your hands, ready to be molded in any way you want.


It's important to start off slowly. Just a soft pressing of your mouth against hers. No tongue to start. After a few of these kisses slowly start to push your tongue out just a little bit, hopefully enticing her to open her mouth. As her mouth opens gently slide your tongue in a little further. Then press your lips against hers a bit harder and with a bit more passion. From there move to kissing other parts of her body as well.

By this point your lover should be really turned on. If you both still have your clothes on it's time to start removing them - slowly. Start with her top and bra.

Caressing Her Breasts

Place your hand on her breast. Softly caress it. Use your forefinger and thumb to gently squeeze her nipple. See how erect it is. She is really turned on. Now stop and take a moment to tell her how beautiful she is and how much she is turning you on. Women want to be told this, and now would be the perfect time. Then softly take her nipple into your mouth, run your tongue around it's hardness. Use your hand to softly caress her other breast.

What happens next will depend on you and your lover. But, it's now time to explore her vagina. You can gently place your hands between your lovers legs. If she is still wearing panties gently rub her private area while still kissing her body. Slowly move her panties to the side and gently explore her clitoris. Very lightly rub her clit with your fingers. Or, if you like you could go down on her using your tongue to softly stimulate her clitoris. Either way, that's up to you and your lover.

The important thing to remember about "Foreplay" is that it should be done gradually. Slowly increase the physical and emotional sensitivity. As the arousal mounts you increase the stimulation allowing you and your partner to have the most erotic, love making sessions ever. Remember that "Foreplay The Key To Better Orgasms".

Happy Foreplay!

Marie Clare

Relationship Consultant & Author

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The Effect Of Hysterectomy On Sexual Response And Sexual Identity - By: James Brann, MD

Women have mixed emotions regarding the effect of hysterectomy on sexual response and sexual identity. Most woman go on to have a normal sex life, some have a heightened response, while others are less able to have a sexual response following hysterectomy due to their perceived loss of femininity.

Some women may notice a change in their sexual response after the uterus has been removed. For example, uterine contractions a woman might have associated with orgasm may no longer be perceived. Other women may experience a heightened response. This may be due to the fact that they no longer have to worry about getting pregnant and no longer have tremendous pain or dysfunctional bleeding.

If the ovaries are not removed, the outer genitals and the vagina are not affected and remain lubricated when a woman is sexually aroused. If the ovaries are removed at the time of hysterectomy, vaginal dryness may be a problem during sexual intercourse. Vaginal dryness can be helped with the use of estrogen cream.

During a hysterectomy your doctor removes vaginal tissue. This may make the vagina shorter. Deep thrusting during intercourse may be painful. Changing positions during intercourse may help, such as being on top or bringing your legs closer together.

Recently interest in supracervical hysterectomies (where the cervix is not removed at time of hysterectomy) has grown out of speculation that women might enjoy better sexual function after hysterectomy when the cervix is left in place. A new study has found there is no difference in sexual function or quality of life when a supracervical hysterectomy is performed instead of a total abdominal hysterectomy.

Post hysterectomy depression may interfere with sexual response. Depression may follow a hysterectomy from a concept that femininity and an intact functioning uterus are one. Some women link their self-image with reproductive ability. Menses reminds a woman of her uniqueness where hysterectomy takes away this cue. Many women have a brief emotional reaction to the loss of the uterus and ovaries that erodes their sense of well-being and femininity. If the problem persists please discuss your feelings with your doctor.

Be sure if you are considering a hysterectomy you discuss your personal health and medical history with your doctor.

About the Author:

Dr. James Brann is a board certified Obstetrician and Gynecologist and a Fellow of the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. He is also the Editor of Women's Healthcare Topics an information source for all women. -