Saturday, June 10, 2006

How a Romantic Surprise Can Keep Your Relationship Fresh - By Lynn Johnson

“Love withers with predictability; its very essence is surprise and amazement. To make love a prisoner of the mundane is to take its passion and lose it forever.” --Leo Buscaglia

It is said that no matter what problems your relationship faces, if you can keep the romance alive, the rest can be worked out. And there is no quicker and easier way to rejuvenate romance than coming up with romantic surprises.

If you feel your relationship is in a rut, and everything in it is predictable, chances are – it’s been a long time since either of you surprised the other. So, what kind of a surprise is best for an instant rekindling of the passion you used to feel for each other?

That depends on the two of you and your relationship – what is best differs for each couple, as each relationship is unique. However, here are a few tips that will start you on the exciting path of creating your own distinctive, romantic surprises for your partner:

Little things and gestures matter more than we give them credit for. You do not have to make elaborate, expensive preparations for your surprise – use your creativity and imagination instead.

Your Touch: If there is one thing that longtime couples could use more of, it is touching.

Remember how much intimate touching you would indulge in, early in the relationship? As couples become more comfortable with each other and the initial high of oxytocin drops; we cut short the intimate touching, and opt for quickies instead.

A Massage – especially an unexpected one, can work as the perfect pleasant surprise – all the more so if your partner is worn to the bone from an exhausting work schedule.

If you are planning a full body deep muscle massage for your partner, then remember to use a massage that contains either ginseng, or a heating feature. Want to get more adventurous? Add adult toys that both of you enjoy, and make it a game!

These are some of the features you can include in your romantic bedroom games - waterproof adult toys for your intimate bath, a book depicting various lovemaking positions, edible paints for licking off, and scented candles along with soft slow music for the ambiance.

The number and type of bedroom love games that you can create are limited only by your imagination – and your willingness (as well as that of your partner). Remember - both of you should be comfortable with the toys and games; else it will hardly increase intimacy (not to mention, your partner will not look forward to the next surprise).

The intimacy that results from your efforts should not spell the end of romantic surprises, however. On the contrary, remember that it is the surprise element that keeps the romance fresh!

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