Thursday, June 29, 2006

Dating - What most men do wrong online - time after time - by MAXINE CLARK

Answer - just about everything.

I will expand on this. Just because it’s an online dating world does not mean you have to throw every ounce of class out the window. WE see guys get it all wrong every day. Acting like idiots in chat rooms, bad taste photos in their ads. Bad descriptions in their ads. Contacting members when they don’t fit the profile requirements. The list goes on - the fact is guys will not get the best results unless they learn how to play the online game. This means using some basic skills most of should know from functioning in society on a daily basis. When you meat a girl in the street you don’t walk up and drop your pants, show her your privates and give her your number. Women like to see faces, nice body shots, maybe Mr privates can be included but that should be in a private gallery or exchanged by email on request. Guys need to play the game a little even online. Make contact, be polite, respond to what the women are looking for in their profiles. Women get hit by so many replies to their ads that they are only going to respond to the ones that stand out and address their needs. Online dating is an easy skill - you want results improve your skills. Just like the off line dating scene some men are much better at it than others. This is not to say you can’t learn the art form! Common or uncommon sense is one of the big things, you can learn it or fake it.

Respect for the opposite sex is paramount here, do to others as you would have them do to you. Girls are going to behave differently depending on what they are expecting so you have to take a good close look at the information they post in their profile and adjust your approach. If a girl says she wants a one night stand or a three some then you can be a bit more risqué with your initial approach. If there is an indication that your prospect wants a relationship then you would be advised to start slowly or consider what your after and not start at all.

In effect women post profiles online and wait for the emails to come flooding in - that’s how it goes. Guys don’t get contacted at any where near the same rate so they need to consider that when they respond to an ad they like that they are one of many and are entering a very competitive situation. Many online advances will go straight into the trash can.

Get involved, contact some women and see how you go - online dating is a great way to make contact with compatible partners. Try some variation in your approach and stick to what works for you. Thousands of people are meeting every day online using chat rooms, webcam chat and email.

Do’s

- Use your manners

- Ask intelligent questions

- Look at and respond to members profiles

- Respond to ads where you meet the profile requirements

- Give a little information about yourself and what your looking for

- Use a good picture or series of pictures

- Get a professional photo taken

- Be patient

- be genuine

Don’t

- Be rude

- be short

- use graphic sex shots

- don’t rush

- Don’t respond to ads outside of their asking requirements

- Don’t act like a sex starved idiot (even if you are)

Don’t lie about your age or anything else!


Maxine is an expert on the online dating industry and has been involved for 5 years http://www.casualdate.com.au/sexy

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